Strategies for the Father of the Groom

When you are desperately looking forward to have the best approach or best technique in editing and presenting your father of the groom speech, you only need some high quality strategies to follow. While it all seems rather complicated, messed up and required on a short notice, it’s all easy once you learn what approaches to follow.

Of course, some of the key elements are determination, desire, hard work and goal-oriented speech editing. What is the goal orientation? The simple idea: the basic requirement to have a complete, presentable groom’s father speech.

The strategy of wise time management

If you reject the idea by saying or thinking “I know how to manage your time”, then I strongly recommend that you still read this section. Time management is not necessarily about knowing hundreds of theories and never putting any in practice. It’s also not about some ideas you had sometime, but failed to apply due to something missing or not having enough details.

The only way you can approach wise time management is by knowing what to do, step by step. I don’t encourage foolishness: so making huge steps is not always possible. Still, it’s the small but certain steps that always take you to the greater ones. So, in conclusion, you just need baby steps to succeed.

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What comes first? How do you manage time if your job also demands overtime? What if you have a regular job and a part-time job too?

The answers to these questions are now going to be given one by one.

What comes first?

What comes first is always established by:

  • What is more urgent
  • What came unexpectedly (dental appointment, car’s tire exploded, etc.)
  • Helping the loved ones in need (your mother needs your help specifically for something, your wife needs you to fix the sink, etc.)
  • The things that are absolutely necessary

What we are always confused about is point 1, what is more urgent, and point 4, the things that are absolutely necessary. The wrong way to manage time often comes by the wrong perception of what is urgent. Let’s check a practical example.

Bill has a job, demanding 10 hours per day, 6 days per week. Bill’s wife can’t lift heavy things, because she had a surgery last month. Bill’s mother needs help, and Bill’s dad is lazy. Bill’s son handles things greatly, except some harder stuff. Bill has a gym membership, a favorite TV series and then he loves playing golf with his friends 3 times a week. On Friday, John calls, asking Bill to play golf on Saturday. If Bill goes, it is apparently okay and good to honor his friend, but truly it’s a step back and a way to mess up time management upon the approach of a wedding.

Do you understand the point of the example? It’s the things we believe would be urgent, not the ones that are actually urgent. For example, many people know that their son’s wedding is approaching in N months. Still, they don’t bother writing 2-3 lines for the speech daily, and then wake up suddenly that there’s nothing prepared and things are crazy.

So, first off, you need to learn how to set priorities in this season of your life, when your family needs you most. You can temporarily cancel many of your activities you thought were important, because actually missing them now doesn’t hurt you. Not everything of what gives pleasure is necessary!

How do you manage time if your job also demands overtime?

Managing your own time for helping your family, your son, and handling the wedding speech too at the same time is not always easy, especially if you work overtime. Obviously, don’t think about quitting the job just because it’s now a bit challenging.

What you can do is make use of a lunch break or any other time when you have 5 minutes, 10 minutes or maybe even 40 minutes during your workday, time when you normally do nothing or close to nothing. In those minutes, you can focus on collecting ideas for the speech, making notes about it, but keeping in mind that in any given moment, the job is more important and you need to give maximum to it. If there are no free minutes, or you know you have workmates or the boss to control you all the time, then it’s best not to risk getting fired from there. What’s better in that case is if you simply bring the ideas home with you and then allocate 15 minutes at home, every day, for writing some parts for your speech.

It might sound a bit incredible, but 15 minutes is actually all you need to make good progress. You might sometimes find it difficult, because your body would say “let me relax” and your mind would say “come on, I worked too much already today”, but you need to create a discipline out of this part. You always need to know that there are great chances to manage time, even when it seems highly impossible. Just try! Many times we give up based on assumptions or opinions of some people who were and still are too limited to try new things. Be a change and make a change: try for yourself!

What if you have a regular job and a part-time job too?

Now, you might probably think “I am helpless, really. All I can do is hire someone or copy someone’s speech, or maybe ask a friend to write it for me. I can’t because I will never have time for it”. All wrong! You do have time for it. If you read the above section, you have a part of the answer. If not, then another part is that you probably have a few minutes while commuting from one workplace to another, or simply while on the road. No, you shouldn’t text while driving and you shouldn’t use any notebook or other gadget to make notes, while you are on your way to your main job, part-time job or home. You need to have your hands free and your mind at least cleared of the responsibility to drive safely, so that you can engage into actually writing something down.

If both the main and the part-time jobs are demanding or even highly demanding, you maybe have a glimpse of idea. Take out your phone, make a note and you’re done for the moment. Making a note takes up to just a minute at most! Then, what to do with the notes? When you get home, you read them and produce a few sentences based on that. That’s it. Again, not more than just 10-15 minutes per day would work wonders!

Using stupid things for wise results

You might have good friends, you might have articles you have once read – all of these might contain great ideas to help you write the father of the groom speech, or even if not that, then maybe they give ideas for helping your son or making life easier in stressed days.

Many times, we have the problem that we simply have so many things laying around that we simply never get to use them all. That’s so wrong! You need to make use of everything, even of some stupid things, if it helps with the speech. You have a book you never read and seems to be crappy? Just open it, read it and find out if it’s indeed worthless. At least if it was worthless, you can donate it or recycle it, but if it actually had some partial ideas for the speech then it’s even better! In any case, you win something – space or gaining ideas.

Then, maybe someone once began telling you some weird ideas about how they think a good wedding speech is made. While you might have disagreed, you can remember that conversation or contact the person again, asking them to talk about these things. Just because you will engage into conversations with different people doesn’t mean you will become obligated to use their ideas and what they tell you to do. No, you’re just collecting every idea you can, but you only use what you find to be good and correct. Ignore the rest of the incoming information.

The strategy of family conversations

While discussing with family members, you might find the best revelations, the greatest ideas as to how the wedding should be organized in a wise way, and also about the actual speech text. Your siblings, your other children, your cousins, even your son and his bride-to-be – all of them have something to say, and some of them might actually say things that will prove to be of help for you.

Family conversations also enable you to get rid of the excess of stress you might face currently. Maybe you didn’t have the time to share with someone trusted, but now you have the opportunity. Also, by reconnecting with your wife and with your son too, you will have peace of mind and you will know what to write in the speech, even if before that you were clueless.

Within family conversations, when your son is not present, you can ask the people who are there (maybe it’s a dinner, picnic or anything else) about how they’d go about the groom’s father speech? What ideas do they have? What thoughts would they mention? Would they quote someone or not? How would they propose the toast? The answers they give to all these questions will show you many things you were struggling with, but now you will have all ideas. Just collect the ideas, take notes, and then you can use them and combine them into the perfect speech.

Many people forget the power of uniting with the family, and how great the feeling is when you rejoice, get new ideas, share your conflicts and family members can actually stand by you.

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